Is There Anything Wrong With A Blackman Hugging Another Blackman??

Online congregation I swear the black church and black people are so darn homophobic. In today's climate there’s no room for the possibility that a man could mentor, father, and foster a loving non sexual relationship with a man in church. I’m annoyed by the Black Church and this whole vibe around men can't hug men.


The above picture of Apostle Matthew Stevenson and one of his spiritual sons has caused a reasonably amount of online conversation.  According to the back story on the picture one of Apostle Stevenson spiritual sons had just proposed to one of the churches worship leaders and Apostle Stevenson was giving him a big hug of congratulation.  Now while I do understand the way the picture looks and the caption, being an avid follower and big supporter of Apostle Stevenson and his ministry, I don’t find offense or fault in the picture or caption.  

Anyhow, Larry Reid did a Facebook live Monday night discussing the picture of Apostle Matthew Stevenson and one of his spiritual sons.  Check out the conversation in the video clip at the 56:47 mark.

Comments

  1. "...being an avid follower and big supporter of Apostle Stevenson and his ministry, I don’t find offense or fault in the picture or caption. "

    Miss Ann, your above statement alone may be clouding your objectivity concerning this issue.

    Also, while I do not have issues with men expressing their feelings, some things are very questionable.

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  2. I believe that it’s important for us to hug each other because growing up without being hugged creates issues later on in life.

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  3. No one fears homosexuality. Cut out the use of the term (homophobic). Most men have concerns about the possible actions and behavior of homosexuals, but FEAR...NO!!!

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    1. I think the black community in general is to traumatized to understand affection in any form.

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    2. TRAUMATIZED?

      Really?

      What an exaggeration!

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  4. Real men don't hug like that!

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    1. This is normal. It’s a problem for YOU if you see it as an issue.

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    2. Nah. No issue here. This is not normal, especially in this case with this dude. This guy is spiritually confused calling himself he is NOT, an apostle! If spiritually he is messed up, no telling what he would do in the flesh.

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  5. The hug by itself stands alone. But when coupled with his androgynous dress, his woman acting preaching, the company he keeps, and his doctrine as a y0ung man having "sons"...these can raise suspect thoughts in the minds of many. IJS...

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  6. "Dirty minds see and seek dirty things"

    I'm one of those naive types and I don't look for the "bad" or "evil" in something until I have more credible data that leads me to think that way. In your picture above all I see are two men hugging with genuine and sincere affection. They could be two brothers, a father and his son, long lost friends, or yes, even lovers. But honestly, my thinking that they are lovers in this image was the farthest thought from my mind. I don't know these people and I immediately thought it was just an image of two brothers hugging.

    Anyway, there have been tests on this kind of stuff;
    23 Harmless Pictures That Prove You Have A Dirty Mind--You should be ashamed of yourself.
    https://www.buzzfeed.com/mjkiebus/pictures-that-prove-you-have-absolutely-filty-mind?utm_term=.xu86Z2E29#.dwb3Ylblz

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  7. The dude in the black and white shirt looks feminine.
    I could care less about the hug. I hug my brother, dad, male friends and even my pastor and we do not hug like this.
    This hug looks more intimate and close.
    There are PLENTY men in the church who commit homosexual acts but refuse to call it homosexuality.

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    1. How can the act be committed and not call it homosexuality, especially by men (in the church) who should know better?

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  8. Few things to say:
    "I’m annoyed by the Black Church and this whole vibe around men can't hug men."

    Might I suggest you attend a multicultural church or a church that is largely not made up of your race? I say this because when I left the black church and decided to have a Pastor and Church that was not my race, my world opened up and I saw things so much clearer. Not only did I find out that black people were wanted at my church (i.e. no open racism was in the church), they also showed me how by their actions how Christian Men in general are allowed to hug one another and openly say I love you to one another. This has helped me raise my black son and daughter to hug/embrace, say I love you, and in general show affection and its made me and my family better because of it. (Just my testimony.....btw I no longer see things from a black perspective anymore....only from a human perspective)

    In closing, the black church has no hope of culturally changing. There are too many deep rooted issues as a whole within the black church that stem from SIN. People dont want to recognize it and keep falling into the same traps over and over again. The sin of fathers beating the mothers, committing adultery, having kids out of wedlock, and the most disheartening of them all is the lack of outward love black parents (in particular men) have toward their sons and daughters. I cant blame this generation for not knowing how to love without thinking something sexual is behind it. Again this is my opinion and observation. And who can the black community turn to now when so many black leaders are signing up with the enemy to turn their own people in. Look in the media and you will see.

    Bottom line is, its a sin problem and if we learn to adopt the culture that Jesus gives, we can break this generational curse from an individual level and be way more victorious than our ancestors were.

    Just my thoughts....



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    1. I'm very hopeful that is changing CP. Today I see so many more younger men involved with their children's rearing. It's no longer odd to see a man carrying his baby in some sort of sac close to his chest or to see a man in the men's room changing his baby's diaper. I like the images of seeing toddlers exercising with their dad. The kid(s) are like a living weight when they climb onto their father's back as he does push ups. So, while it will take some time, I do think that the fear of men showing affection towards each other is dissipating as more men become more comfortable expressing that affection and love for each other.

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  9. We sometimes major too much in the minor, and women especially deduce all sorts of wayward conclusion as if they are some type psychological experts. Women are emotionally. By nature men are NOT. The problem is we have too many women who are telling men how to be, when women themselves are emotionally and mentally unstable and believe that their feelings are reality 100% of the time.

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    1. I'm so sick of all this criticism by mostly female and weak minded men to appease them about hugging and showing affection between males. I encourage all fathers to rough and tumble play with their boys which boys really really like.

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  10. Amen Anonymous. I've seen to many women question their very own sons sexuality, verbally abusing their little boys, calling them punks and faggots. So if we are going to be fair saying about how men lack emotional sensitivity, take note and be fair criticizing women as well. From what I have observed they are worse than men. Some will call you a fag, if you don't approach them for sex. They are good at that game.

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