I have a question do you find it hard to submit to God or a Spouse?
First we need to submit to God, which is the only way we can truly obey Him. That I can see and do. I find that the husband is to submit to Christ as Christ did to God. And the wife should follow his example and submit to her husband.
It's hard to submit to someone that's not holding up their end of the bargain. I don't have a problem submitting to a loving leadership. When a husband loves his wife as Christ loves the church no problem. I know that it is not a one time thing it is a continual attitude of our minds. Submission is a two way street.
Submission is a position of honor and completeness. When a wife is loved as Christ loves the church, submission is not difficult. Me and some ladies was debating this thing about submit and Obey. I don't have a problem doing either one to a man that is following Christ. I did not ask could you love and ungodly man but Would you submit to and Un godly Man?