Did You Know That The Death of a Parent Affects Even Grown Children Psychologically and Physically??


Online congregation this is interesting to read. Grief is both real and measurable. Scientists now know that the death or your father or mother will forever alter your brain chemistry. My mom died July 17, 2006 of a massive heart attack, she had just turned 70.  This was a terrible time for me and my sibling.  I miss her so much, wish I would of done more, wish I would of just say and talked with her more, hugged her longer like when I was a kid, and I really wish I would of had more time with her. Y 'all I wasn’t expecting it to be so quick, and I had no idea what to expect. Never dealt with pain like that before. And one last thing. Wish I would of taken way more pictures of her.đź’”. My dad died 6 yrs ago, he was 81 yrs old.  Today I’d say it was definitely harder to bury my mom than my dad, not sure why. My mothers love was always unconditional as are most mothers. 

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  1. Ms. Ann thanks for this post. It's so weird, and difficult for someone who's always been there and been such a big part of your life from the day you were born to be gone forever.��

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    1. This article captivated me. I’m 60, I lost my mom when I was 30, she was 52, committed suicide. It altered me dramatically, many parts of the article I relate with. I often wondered what I lost of myself when I lost her and how it shaped who I am today. It’s been 30 something years, I’ll never get over the loss, I’ve learned to live one day at a time, it’s constant conditioning to what was.

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    2. Anonymous you are welcome. This article hit home for me. I often think about my wonderful mom.

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  2. I was much closer to my mom than my dad. I can remember every detail of my dad’s funeral. Who was there, who wasn’t, the color of his suit, you name it I can remember it. For the life of me, I could never remember anything about my mom’s funeral. I know I was there, and that’s it. Everything is still blank after 13 yrs. psychology 101 tells me why I can’t but one would think after this long I’d start remembering.

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  3. This got to me - every day I feel the "I could have, should have, done more" and a terrible load of guilt over how I treated my folks in bad times over my life. I know they loved me very much, and probably wouldn't want me to feel like this, but as an atheist, there is little comfort for me - I can't say "Mama can see me now", since I don't think that can be true. She is always here, as part of my cells, my blood, my bones and stored in the blob of stuff inside my skull, aside from that, IDK. I wish she could see me.

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  4. I am so grateful for verses that says -

    "Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you."

    "To every [thing there is] a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:"

    "My flesh and my heart faileth: [but] God [is] the strength of my heart, and my portion for ever."

    "Blessed [are] they that mourn: for they shall be comforted.

    ALL deserve to DIE. But even in DEATH, God can give COMFORT.

    My dad passed away over 34 years ago. My mom died over 32 years.

    I have known the comfort of the LORD in so many ways every day since their passing.

    "Precious in the sight of the LORD [is] the death of his saints."

    For the UNBELIEVER however...that's another STORY...

    Thank God HE IS OVER ALL and ABOVE ALL....

    BOOM~!!

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  5. I lost my dear mom when I was 12. So you can imagine how that was. I am now 67. And yes, it does affect you in many many ways, as I look back. But the Lord knows all and walks along that path with you. We don't have all the answers, but He teaches us to TRUST.

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  6. In my opinion, this is because we are not taught nor socialized to understand the acceptance of life and death. In no way do I wish to make light of a very sensitive subject, (because death can be traumatic at any age--especially the loss of a parent), but this is when I feel that having a religious foundation is its most comforting and helpful. You're taught about death. You hear and read about it. Then you learn of an after life, etc. It's still very hard but it makes death a bit more palatable and acceptable, if you will. One of the important things that I feel is helpful, (and don't laugh), is having a family pet--especially when there are children, because you experience the life cycle. You experience young, old, sickness, and death. I still hold very fond memories of my "other" brothers and sister (the doggies) and their lives. Although a pet is not human they're still an integral part of the family and its loss can be just as overwhelming as the loss of a human being. But, in the process you learn to care, grieve, and push forward.

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