Is The Black Church Guilty Of Body Shaming Young Women Into Change??

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I'm old school, where, the Christian stance on modest, typically goes, women are to cover their bodies as a mark of spiritual integrity. And too much skin was seen as a distraction that garners inappropriate attention, which can cause our beloved brothers in Christ, to stumble, and overshadows our character.

For those who claim the bible says come as you are, it meant come with your burdens and heavy heart.  Now if you are coming to church for the first time and dressing inappropriately like the pics below and that's all you have, fine, at least you came..... But after some time, you continue to come dressed like that, then, yell your inappropriately dressing needs to be addressed.


Anyhow, the Bible tells us that the Old (older women) ought to teach the young (younger ladies). Years Ago, there was a respect or reverence for the House of the Lord. Nowadays, there's just no respect. Club wear has become standard church wear. If you go to the court house, the workplace, you act & dress a certain way.


 The same should go for the Household of Faith. I don't get that people will do what a judge, cop, even teacher says, sit, rise, remain silent, but when it comes to the place of worship (not matter what your God is) people have a don't care attitude.

 I'm really surprised at the number of comments were the young women feel that they are being shamed, instead of viewing this as a form of love and correction.

Question: Do you believe the church of today, do a lot of shaming of young females?

Comments

  1. I agree, club attire is not okay at church no matter what some might say. I also agree, that people are taking come as you are way too casual.... There is no reason why one can't put on a non revealing dress or a skirt. There is no reason for wearing anything like in the pics you have posted to the church.... There just is not a reason for it.

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  2. Keep it holy when going to church and don't wear clothes that you would be ashamed to wear in front of GOD! Put some clothes on I believe in wear what you have if thats all you have,but some folks need to but dunked in the water a few times. Help us Jesus please!

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    1. holy is not about attire... holiness never been about clothing... it's about one's relationship with God... we act worse then the pharisees when we put up all these man made rules...

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    2. Abraham's Daughter!Tuesday, 28 October, 2014

      Who said holiness had anything to do with dress? I believe all Christians should know that Biblical holiness is the state of the heart, in devotion to God which controls the believer's life and directs him to "abstain from even the appearance of evil." I believe, we need to know without confusion what it means to be holy! Being Holy is an attitude of the heart. One does not become holy by looking a certain way or dressing up our outward appearance or even actions. But if my heart is right I would not be dressing a certain way.

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    3. Our attire doesn't depict our heart... For centuries the church has been teaching doctrines that's not found in The Word of God... James gives us clear instructions on not getting caught up in outward appearances

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  3. So Ms. Ann do you think both women are inappropriately dress for church?

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    1. Stewart thanks for asking. Yes I do!

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    2. I believe both outfits to be inappropriate wear for a church setting, that's just my opinion. Question, would you wear does outfits to a job interview or for that matter to your child's school? If you answer no then why would you think it is ok to wear such outfits to a church setting?

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    3. I wouldn't wear them because I'm a man... Lol...

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  4. Woman who loves the LordMonday, 27 October, 2014

    Should we dress appropriately only in church? Are we any less Christian at work, going on a date, the movies, the beach etc.? The Lord sees us everywhere we go, we can not hide from Him. If we dress modest for church and wear sexy at the club we are only fooling ourselves, but God will not be mocked. We are in front of God the whole day! The way we dress speaks louder than words about our spiritual life and this goes for women and men. Dressing holy for church and sexy to the club says that our heart is divided and doesn't belong completely to the Lord. It means we still love the world and the things of the world. This split personality regarding our faith confuses people and that's why the world doesn't take us serious.

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    1. Wow, Woman who loves the Lord, what a powerful comment. Thanks!

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    2. PREACH, AMEN!

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  5. I do believe, "There is a problem in our churches where elder members feel entitled to harshly and loudly shame young girls who are simply being themselves."

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  6. Interestingly, this morning I was thinking about the time when if you got an invitation to a social event, it noted the dress code (business attire, semi-formal, cocktail, black-tie, etc.) Yesterday I invited a friend to jazz vespers in a church on a Sunday afternoon. She immediately asked me about the dress code. IMO, a church has the right to maintain a decorum in a "house of worship." Businesses exercise that right. Even public schools have uniforms. The elders are not judging young women by the price tag or chicness of their clothes. The concern is how much flesh is exposed. Our elders are blamed for not passing along our history, their wealth, family recipes, etc. But when they correct a young person on how to present themselves in church, that's wrong? When you go through adolescence, everything an adult tells you evokes some embarrassment (menstruation, shaving pubic hair, fitting a bra, wearing deodorant, sex, etc.) If the elders don't educate and correct the young, then it's left to the streets. We're paying dearly for the latter choice. PS: I don't think it's sexist either. I've never seen a young man sagging in church.

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    1. when there's constant attacks on women, I believe there's a sexist agenda... (women can't do this, women can't wear that, women can't, can't, can't...) I've seen brothers come to worship in the summer with tight muscle shirts and not a word was said to them or about them...

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    2. Ain't no one attacking women so you can stop with that lie.

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  7. The Wife Of 23 Years:Monday, 27 October, 2014

    As a convert I can compare both sides: I was raised to believe that church DID have a uniform in dress. Skirts to the knee or below. Pantyhose all the time. Modest top. Now a days, I see 'come as you are' to equal, after the club or right out of bed. As far as Muslims are concerned we have a mandate on modesty and it's across the board what the minimum is. There is no ambiguity. Where as in the Christian church, dependent on ones doctrine and social more there can be a huge grey area.

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    1. God will not be pleased with you even if you are covered from head to toe if your inner man is not covered with the garment of salvation!

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  8. I don't agree with a lot in the church but I do agree with this. I mean if you're going to go and partake in auxiliary, choir, ministry, etc you should follow the "rules". Don't dress like a hoochie because you're taking "come as you are" to the extreme and you don't agree with them.

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  9. why has there been so much attention given to the way folks dress and not enough attention given to their burdens or spiritual estate? we beat folks (especially women) up too much about how they're coming to church... the last time I checked, folks with long dresses and fitted suites were just as loose as those whom dressed modestly... ijs folks stop with these laws... and for the women who complains, they're only jealous because they can't wear it... ijs

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  10. Apostle Of The InternetTuesday, 28 October, 2014

    I am "middle aged". I find that the "older" generation feels that Sunday-Go-To-Meeting are matter of respect. From what I have witnessed however, is that for the most part it is vanity and pride. I am also a large individual. I can not go and buy a sport coat, suit, or even dress pants "off the rack". And the cost of the purchase are just not worth it. You mention that I should consider that a sacrifice to the Lord - my answer is this, I do make that sacrifice to the Lord, just not by purchasing a suit of clothes to put on my back to please your eyes. Each paycheck, I send a portion to an orphanage/children's home where I know that my sacrifice benefits innocent children. Isn't that more in line with God's commands? I have been excluded from serving publicly in worship because I didn't have a coat & tie. Who is wrong? Me, for not spending money to "look nice" - or - those who sit in judgement of others?

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  11. Men are visual. Looking arouses them (thus the issue with pornography). The scripture speaks of 'defrauding' or cheating: arousing feelings in another person that you cannot righteously satisfy.

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  12. When we come to church our mind should be on worship, not on what somebody wears...

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  13. Zephaniah 1:8 ►
    King James Version
    And it shall come to pass in the day of the LORD'S sacrifice, that I will punish the princes, and the king's children, and all such as are clothed with strange apparel.
    Dressing like a clown or like a prostitute in the house of God does matter Rev. So say the holy scripture. It seems to me that your enjoying what you see in your church rather than teaching these young woman the differences between Holy and unholy.

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