I'm not saying I total agree with Michelle on her points, but I do understand where she's coming from. I don't think Christian women submit unto their husband because they think he deserves it, it's because we know it's pleasing to our Lord.
Why is biblical submission so hard for Christian to follow? If you think about it the word submission for the Christian doesn't just apply to wives only it applies to every one of us in some kinda of way. In every area of a Christian life it calls for us to be submissive, if we like it or not. For example, Christians are to submit themselves to each other (Ephesians 5:21), to government (Romans 13:1), and unto God (James 4:7). It's call self-sacrifice.
* A Husband Needs A Wife Who Accepts Him As A Leader And Believes In His God-Given Responsibilities”: Husbands are commanded to govern their wives; God works through a man’s decisions — good or bad; Bad decisions reveal his needs and allow the wife to appeal and demonstrate Godly character; The more a wife trusts her husband, the more careful he will be in giving her direction; Never ask others for counsel without your husband’s approval; reassure your husband that you understand and believe that he is your God-given leader.
* A husband needs a wife who will continue to develop inward and outward beauty: How can you become more of the wife of your husband’s dreams?; discover and conform to your husband’s real wishes; explain your hairstyle to others on the basis of your submission to your authority; separate your “rights” from your responsibilities.
* Ask your husband to define your responsibilities; Ask your husband to tell you when you have a resistant spirit; dispel a backbiting tongue by silence.