1 Peter 3:4 instructs women to have a “gentle and quiet spirit,” but our spirits do not always reflect this kind of calm and peace in Christ. Instead, we want to control things and do them our way, in the same way that Eve did in the garden. We manipulate, we scheme, and we can become out right ugly when we don’t get what we want. Any person would find this kind of behavior to be intimidating. Women No Women! I do not think the label of “intimidating” always reflects the truth, nor is it always a negative label. I whole-heart agree that women can be bitter and angry and drive people away with their fitful spirits, but this is not the only reason women are intimidating.
women can also be intimidating because they are smart, and because they are successful, or even because they are spiritually solid. Now I've been to blogs were the blog administrator will make comments like "people want leave comments because they are intimidated by us smart women."No! it could be because you have a nasty attitude and saying something they don't agree with. It's indeed important for Christian women to check their attitudes and make sure they’re not acting out of a desire to control or manipulate.
So don’t get me wrong, there are times when intimidation is a bad/good thing. If we as women are not resting in the love and security of Christ, then it will certainly show through. So, the next time someone labels you as intimidating, search your heart, and see if there is any truth to the statement. Do you struggle with humility? Do you struggle with wanting to control people? Do you often feel manipulative? If you answer “yes” to all these, then perhaps you deserve the title.
